12/06/2025

How I Stopped Being Angry & Resentful (As A Black Woman)

Black women aren’t inherently angry.

But many have every reason to be.

Anger is a human emotion — not a “Black” one, not a “woman” one. But the stereotype of the "angry Black woman" has been used for generations to silence, shame, and dismiss Black women’s pain, passion, and rightful outrage.

So let’s unpack this.

🧠 Historical & Social Context

Black women live at the intersection of racism, sexism, and often classism — facing compounding pressures and dehumanisation. Some reasons for deep frustration or anger include:

  • Being unheard or dismissed — especially in healthcare, work, or relationships

  • Carrying emotional labor for everyone — and rarely getting support in return

  • Facing constant microaggressions and code-switching just to be accepted

  • Being fetishized or feared, but rarely seen as fully human

  • Intergenerational trauma — pain passed down from slavery, Jim Crow, and systemic oppression

If you’re asking this from a place of self-reflection (as a Black woman yourself), I’d be honoured to help you unpack or process what you're feeling, see link above. And if you’re asking from outside the experience, I’d invite you to listen more deeply — and with care — to the stories behind that anger.

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